Lol...i feel you. My Fiona actually had her fisrt kid at age 52. I was filled with joy.
Well first order of business, it is not fair when i spend a lot of money in ensuring the child of my couple completes her advance learning classes and then goes to boarding school, only to begin a new generation as a shoe maker. Thats not fair one bit. Money well spent should provide a justifiable result, were we can say the end justifies the means. In addition scolding the kids against engaging in certain activities, such as "jumping on the bed" only affects their mood/feelings and does nothing about shaping their character. Meaning i still see them jump on the bed, a lot. If you can effect changes to these i did be super grateful.