I simply cannot get an elder.
Training a male in parenting or healing is totally impossible. I read the walkthrough which suggests making people sick with a stew, then having my adept healer heal them to gain experience.
So trying to train a male parent I have him make love with a woman over 50 non stop, about 15 times, the parent skill meter doesnt budge one single mm.

Same thing with the healer, it simply does not go up ever, even after healing 15 people.

whats up?