I was trying that for a totem too. I got bored of the bar not seeming to change and just left the lady flagged as a parent then watched her go for one of the young boys every time (she was over 50). The poor guy tried to return to researching numerous times but was always hunted down and dragged into the hut again lol.

Then he got a little older and she then ditched him for a younger model lol. I think he was secretly relieved hehe. I did get the totem after about two days of leaving her on parenting and turning her into a nymphomaniac.

I can't blame her for not picking the guy her own age I originally paired her with. He was a runner and was always out of the hut before she reached it. Now where's the fun in that? :P