If you have been breeding a male he will be unstoppable in the future, your best bet is to only drop women on the men. That way you can control the populations in your villages. When you drop the men on the women they increase their learning in breeding and the more you do that....they will impregnate every woman in your village.
At least dropping the women on the men and making them the initiaters, once they get pregnant they will leave the men alone til they are done weaning. The men well they wont stop if there is a non pregnant female of breeding age anywhere in the tribe.

Whether its a male or female that has the high "parenting" or breeder status they will almost always go for the oldest person of the opposite sex in the village before any other.