ah i had been meaning to come back to this & check for replies. thanks a bunch for answering. So I'm going to re-read these replies here & possibly reply again if necessary. Thanks!
To Arnie - Cafe World is a game of HARASSMENT! OMG LOL I just...the constant begging...its so awful!

Know one thing I'm guilty of? I dont like to have a big ugly folder as the icon for the game, but rather to move the fishy picture out and place that either on my desktop or in my games folder.....so maybe that is causing some of the problems?
I mean, who wants to look at a big ugly old blue folder all the time when they could have those pretty red & blue fish? (seriously....)
So I will follow your steps, should work. Of course.
Thanks again.