I may be on break, but I will still check the forums now and then. I'm breaking my self imposed silence to say only this one thing.

Despite what you've read here, I NEVER called Spinny, or anyone else a liar. She totally misconstrued a correction I attempted to politely make in the SB when I caught her in what I perceived to be role playing.

I only vaguely recall the whole incident. I don't recall my exact words, but I believe (knowing how I usually handle such things) that it was a generic reminder that role playing is not allowed.

I recall that she attempted to openly challenge that, and I attempted to move it to a PM in which she claims I made a rather off color remark.

Those of you who know me, also know that I became a minister before most of you were born. My point is that I simply can't conceive of a circumstance where I would make the kind of remark she claims I made to her.

To those who feel these forums will never go back to being the "Happyville" of the past, I challenge you to reflect inwardly, as I will be doing during my hiatus.

The ONLY thing stopping this from being a gentle, loving place where all feel wanted, is OUR attitude towards each other.

Differences can be set aside, disagreements resolved, and hurt feelings soothed. It takes only a sincere desire on the part of everyone involved to make it happen.

I have, and am willing to continue to apologize to anyone I may have offended. I assure you such offense was unintentional.

When I suggested that if they site isn't making people happy they look elsewhere, I wasn't attempting to tell them they aren't welcome here, rather that they decide if this is really a site they want to visit.

Nor, was I attempting to shush Gamey, or suggest people don't have a right to suggest change. I think Barbara (who for all practical intents is "the boss" here) welcomes your suggestions.

But, please keep in mind that just because the admins want to hear your ideas, DOESN'T mean they will always agree, or accept those suggestions. If the answer is no, then you need to accept it and move on. NOT try to force change.

There are right ways and wrong ways to bring about change. I personally feel this public bickering is the wrong way. I believe it is doing far more harm than good. I really wish those who persist in keeping the argument alive would take their own time to stop and think about their ulterior motive.

Is it really to bring about change? Or is it simply to try and tear down something you no longer like? If the first, then carry on. If not, then please end this now.