Hi Ann, you don't need a mod to locate the remote, all you need are the original image files which installed when you originally installed the game on your laptop. In Windows look for your .png files in the IMAGES folder under PROGRAM FILES\VIRTUAL FAMILIES. It is best to make a separate folder called something like BACKUP IMAGES or IMAGES BACKUP and copy all of the files from your IMAGES folder into your backup folder, the backed up image files are sacred ground and one day you may be happy you have copies of these original files. You'll find the .png files you need in the IMAGES folder. Good luck.
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