Originally Posted By: sapphyrebaby
Originally Posted By: bethlham
Also, check the happiness meter...while carrying the baby my VF mother has stayed elated. So...she is happy.


I have to disagree with this. Maggie, my first adoptee, had some VF form of post-natal depression. The compulsory two years of carrying the baby (to date, she gave birth thrice) makes her 'a little blue' or 'depressed' all the time.


Don't disagree...it's true for me laugh

Really though, if your's are blue or depressed try to continue to praise them for behaviors that you like while they are carrying the baby, even if it's showering or washing their hands or watering the flowers. Feed them a treat occassionally. That seems to help me.

As far as inequity, I have had mom's that have had up to 6 kids and still surpass the dads at their careers but recently I started a new stradegy. I go ahead and buy all the house repair kits when they are available and set them in their places. Then when time comes for babies, I let the husband work on the career and let the mom prepare meals, do dishes and put out fires, sell collectibles and complete house repairs. Then after the baby same thing but switch so mom works on the career while dad does the other stuff for a bit.

But, I do praise them until they are elated and just keep them that way. smile