I'm not sure if this has been posted before but I wanted to ask anyway.

For one of my families, the parents seem to argue whenever I try to get them to embrace each other or to try for another kid. I noted that it takes an average of 2-3 years before they try for another kid but the two kids are 8 and 10 and yet they keep insisting it is not time/not ready.

Another issue is that the parents don't interact with the kids. In my first family, the parents do interact -by tickling. But for this family, if I put a parent with a kid, the kid stands still while the parent will stop for a moment before walking away.

Can I encourage them to bond or is it unlikely to correct?

Do your parents want kids? I've noticed with my own families and a lot on this board that if the parents have a low desire for kids (no way or not really) then they aren't as likely to have a lot of kids.. And they don't seem as likely to care about their children once they do have them. Parents who want kids (definately or it would be nice) seem to be content to have another one as soon as the mother stops carrying around the last one and they seem to interact better with the children.

My peeps definitely want kids, but still they keep arguing every time I let them try.

Well.. The father has the 'maybe' attitude but the mom has the 'definitely' attitude. It's very frustrating on the baby front.

The mother seems to hate the kids! She ignores them and when I put them together, she simply walks off. The father isn't too bad. He does stick around for movie nights and dinners unlike his wife who would run off soon after everyone's settle round the TV or dinner area.

Even if they argue, keep dropping them on each other until they try to make a baby.

mine too. They actually have a more positive view on children.(the mother's a 'Definitely' on that front) but they argue at every chance I put them together.

The daughters are 11 and 9 now. I hate big age gaps to be honest, which makes me a little more frantic to quickly get one more -to follow the realism of a Chinese family of having a son to carry on the family line.

That's right. It might take several minutes, but eventually they'll "kiss and make up" and try for a baby. Whether they'll succeed is another matter ...

Only if they shake their heads and say "NO!" is it not (yet) possible to get them to try for a baby.

I hope so. The mother's 46 now. I know that it's possible to try until 50 but the way things are going, I think the odds are really against me. =(

There are days that I run for the hills as soon as the kids latch onto my husband. Doesn't mean I don't love them, but a little me time stolen when I can get it is priceless.

Seriously though, in one of my families I have a father who wants kids less than the "definitely" mother. I have noticed that if I drop him onto her, they are much less likely to argue about having kids. If I drop her, they will argue at least half a dozen times. Try making sure you are starting the action with the one that wants the kids the least and see if it helps a little.

I did try both ways, its a no go. They would start arguing and the poor henpecked husband would walk off to do laundry or clean the fridge. Poor him. =(



I understand but considering she ignores them the whole time and neither has she put any effort (despite my constant praises) into her career. Could it be I had randomly encountered a slob/slacker adoptee?

I have noticed that if a peeps is struggling with their career I spend a little extra time with them. I put them on their career and watch. If they don't suceed I put them right back on it. If they do suceed I watch to see their next action. If it's anything but working on the career I put them right back on it and praise them again.

I keep this up until they suceed a few times and it really seems to help working take hold.

Also, I don't interupt them while they are working. If they are in mid-cycle I let them finish before moving them to something else.

I think this helps them develope the skill/experiance to try again and finish a cycle.

As far as arguing and making a baby...I just keep trying until they make up. I don't know if it helps but something I do is make sure they are fed, feeling fresh, have food, are rested and have no emergencies going on then when they do decide to try I praise them or give them a treat.

Again, I may just be getting lucky but it seems to be working out!

Good luck!

i did a whole lotta hand holding with this woman. i even dragged her right back to the station to continue. sometimes she gets lucky when her husband takes over (they're both in the food industry, diff jobs though) because he's the breadwinner considering her pay barely covers a bag of dairy products.

On the kid front, she's too old for it. i was thrilled when the adoption choice came up but honestly i was disappointed it was a girl.

That being said, she's still ignoring the children. At this point, I'm really glad that parents dont stick around when the next gen take over because she's not a grandmother anyone can appreciate.

My mom & dad peep were doing the same thing when I was trying for my 6th child. They just kept arguing. *I found a secret!* Buy some perfume or cologne from the store and apply it to the peep. They will celebrate their marriage. Then try the baby thing again. It worked for me. Now I have a full house.

yeah i just think that sometimes they just aren't in the mood. but i SCOLD them if they do it regularly because if you let them do what they want they will never listen too you.

I tryed using the perfume in hopes to have a family that will have all 6 kids, but if i put the perfume on the woman, the man gets stuck, and vice versa. Their actions say they are celebrating marriage, but they dont move. I had the man one time stand in front of the coffee table for about 5 mins before i finally moved him. The whole time his action said he was celebrating marriage, but just stood there looking around while the woman danced, made a cake, ect.. and the man just stood there, looking around and didnt move.

I would guess he dislikes jumping and gets stuck.

The parents arent really the ones to interact with the kids, it's really just the kids and kids. If one of the parents definatly wanted children, I have found theres a better chance they will interact. If your person is 46, its hard to have kids. Heres a trick I use:

sixtuplets? is it really possible?

I have a couple where the mom didn't want kids. I did manage to get them to have 3 then 6 years of arguing about it and if they did try, nothing. Right around the time she turned 46 I gave them both a baby boost, stuck em together and hit triplets. Of course then I felt kinda guiltly for sticky that poor lady who didn't even want kids with 3 at one time!