Nora, if you have other families to play with, you might want to continue with your widow & see what happens. In one of my first families, I experimented to see how a childless couple would get along, so I chose 2 peeps who didn't want kids. Each time her spouse died, she emmediately got a marriage proposal! Like they were just waiting in the wings, lol. She married 3 times, and the last outlived her by about 1/2 an hour. After her 2nd hub died, it was sad to watch her mope around. She just stood in the kitchen door gazing out, at one point. I gave her lots of fruit & candies til she got that email.