I took LadyCFII's mod as inspiration to make my own mod. I changed a color of the totems here and there (lightened the thin brown, added red to the green one). And then I shrunk them 50% and placed them in the center of their "clickable area".
With the totems being smaller, it allowed me to find a very nice place for them — on top of their gravestones! I rather like the look of it.

Every single villager I have had has become an Esteemed Elder before dying with 1 exception: the original female adult that came through the cave to find the children. She was just too old to finish my "training" program. She was the first to die.
So that left one gravestone without a totem.
At the same time, I had one Esteemed Elder die after all the graves were created, leaving her totem without a headstone. So I placed that totem on the gravestone of the very first villager.
I took a screenshot of the grave site before all my Esteemed Elders had died so it shows not only the gravestones with their totems, but the extra totems for the villagers who had not yet died. Since I took this screenshot, all of my Esteemed Elders have passed on so the entire grave site is finished. I really like the way it looks!
Here are the pics. This one is before all my Esteemed Elders had died.

And here is the pic of the final grave site with all of the gravestones marked with their totems.
Below is the actual mod file if anyone wants to use it. Either save the picture to your computer or download it from the 3rd link below. Be sure to make a backup of your original totem.png file before using my mod just in case you want to switch back! Also change the filename from 3910-totems.png to
totems.png.
