Also I felt sorry for him for having to run away from those people all the time until I realized he was a farmer who didn't like fish, and so was actually running away from the task to which I had set him. Oops.
Don't be too hard on yourself Whoops ... I think we've all "been there done that" at one time or another. Now that you're aware you are in a position to change things ... that is why I look at their health meters every night ... sometimes, they can go through their life fine with what they are doing, and then ... (no pun intended) ... WHOOPS! they aren't happy anymore and need a career change ... usually that straightens out the problem and they go through the rest of their lives on a happy note.